Showing posts from December, 2010

Chronic fatigue - the prognosis

I've had many estimates from healthcare professionals over the years relating to a possible recovery from my mystery illness varying from 3 months (you'll get over it), to 1 year (think of it like glandular fever), to 10 years (this is how long it will take your immune system to adjust), to never (you have an incurable illness), and finally, to the more reliable, we don't know. During my most most recent meeting with someone who works with chronic fatigue patients I was told this:

10% don't recover
80% learn to manage their illness and live a meaningful life
10% fully recover

Is this good news or not? I guess, statistically, there's a chance of something, but my take home message was this: there's no going back.

People only hear what they want to hear

This is the flipside to the post I was trying to write yesterday - we only see what is relevant to the self. In the same way that we only see our self interest in our daily interactions, so too do other people. They are just seeing themselves in all things that they are doing. There's nothing wrong with that until we expect people to see things from our point of view and then a certain amount of frustration kicks in.

For example, when we have a conversation with someone we automatically assume they can see things from our point of view. It seems obvious to us what the truth is and they should agree with us or empathise with our situation. Not so. We all see things differently and from our own self centered perspective - it is impossible to do otherwise. In any situation, unless we are highly mindful, our brain automatically filters down information that we hear dependant on our past experiences and mood at the time. I might say "the sky is a lovely blue today" and differe…

We only see what is relevant to our self

This is quite an interesting insight into delusion and the self. Basically, as we go about our day to day lives we only pickup on things that our relevant to us or in some way relate to our internal experiences. Or, we only see what we want to see.

For example, my garage it is piled up with stuff. To my friend, he sees a pile of junk that probably needs to be thrown away or he might spot a fishing rod he might like, or a broken remote control car. My children might spot a trampoline or pogo stick or boxing gloves - things they might like to play with. I might be drawn to an old table that my grandmother used to own and have in her lounge because it has strong memories for me of the 70s and early 80s.

Now there's nothing wrong with this. The problem occurs when we think we are going round in our lives seeing things in a totally unbiased manner assuming that what we are seeing is somehow the real truth of what is going on. What we are actually seeing is our self in everything externa…