Lose your attachment to the way things should be

That's it really. If you can do this then a different world opens up as if by magic. You realise that everything you were holding to was like some kind of trick. Nothing really happens. It doesn't really matter. In a good way of course. Let's not get nihilistic.

Notice what happens when you release your grip on the way things should be. Notice how smooth things become; relationships, your shoulders, the day at work, the smile on your face and on the faces you encounter. It all kind of works by itself.