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Only the right question can give you the right answer

There is nothing. Something happens, perhaps we hear a noise. A question arises, "what was that?". And we find the answer.
Everything works like this - it's cause and effect. Now, the really interesting part is where we try to find meaning in this. The truth of the meaning is in the process itself, not the details.
And what are the details? Us, life, we are the details.
Do you know what I'm suggesting here?

Decouple feelings and thoughts

You may like to observe this yourself or you can marvel at the sheer idea that it might be true. The idea is this:
When a feeling arises, we attach an arbitrary thought to it from our stock of standard thought patterns. The true nature of the feeling may be completely different to the thought it generates.
(This is similar to the notion that we attach random explanations to events after they have happened - something that has been demonstated many times in scientific experiments.)
So, for example, a feeling of emptiness arises. Our habitual thoughts may latch onto it and start generating "fix it" actions - emptiness is unpleasant, we must avoid it. These very thoughts are a window into the reason why we might be feeling unhappy in the first place ... Or emptiness arises and we allow our initial unease to pass, and we left with nothing but emptiness - which as we abide with becomes something quite pleasant. 

Love life by letting go of your self

I have thus far resisted the urge to talk about the self in this blog, mainly because it is a bit of a side show distraction. Is there a self? Is there no self? It's like asking ourselves whether we exist or not. We clearly do exist but perhaps not in the way we would like to.
Anyway, life gets more enjoyable when we loosen our grip on what we see as important to us. These important things are not really important at all - a bower bird will collect all kinds of rubbish for its display (things it classes as important) but to us they are not important at all. In fact, in a similar way, everything we assign value to has no lasting value - they are the transient expression of our inner desires. The misery starts to set in when we defend or attach to these so called important things - we lose our perspective. 
So, it turns out that we can start to enjoy things more if we loosen our grip on them - we can begin to appreciate them for what they are. The same goes for our self. We can love w…

The mind is deep, life is shallow

There's not much more I can add to that. The pleasure in life is felt by the depth of being alive - the mind and all it's layers - rather than the surface act of living. Life seems to perennially push us towards shallow things because they are easy to quantify, but we all know that money, possessions, status are fragile and a poor substitute for living a fully immersive life, experiencing everything as it comes. It is saddening to see the way we are tricked into spending our lives chasing our tails in the workplace. The great dream of the 70s was that technology would help us work less, giving us more time for leisure. It appears to be having an opposite effect, feeding our insecurities, driving us faster than ever before. I appear to be rambling...
The good news is that we are intrinsically born to want pleasure and experience happiness. If we know that this is within us then we can turn towards the deep, felt sense of being alive and start to wake up to something very nice.