I have thus far resisted the urge to talk about the self in this blog, mainly because it is a bit of a side show distraction. Is there a self? Is there no self? It's like asking ourselves whether we exist or not. We clearly do exist but perhaps not in the way we would like to.
Anyway, life gets more enjoyable when we loosen our grip on what we see as important to us. These important things are not really important at all - a bower bird will collect all kinds of rubbish for its display (things it classes as important) but to us they are not important at all. In fact, in a similar way, everything we assign value to has no lasting value - they are the transient expression of our inner desires. The misery starts to set in when we defend or attach to these so called important things - we lose our perspective.
So, it turns out that we can start to enjoy things more if we loosen our grip on them - we can begin to appreciate them for what they are. The same goes for our self. We can love who we are if we are prepared to let go of who we think we are and what is important to us. This is not so easy, but if we want to feel good about life then this is a good place to start.