Showing posts from October, 2015

Overcoming chronic fatigue

I read this article with interest:

I went down with chronic fatigue 10 years ago and I now consider myself "recovered", although I use that term optimistically - I am now able to function like a normal person if I am careful and I don't do too much. So then, how did I recover?

- doctors did not help
- CBT did not help in the form it was given
- revising my expectations about my situation did help (this required an extremely honest occupational therapist) although it did not help my condition
- exercise did not help, but it became a useful measure of my recovery over time
- supplements and diets did not really help, other than it would a healthy person
- relaxation and mind control did help with day to day symptoms
- time and the healing process was the main thing

When you go down with chronic fatigue (a bit of flu, you are unable to function like a …

Allow thoughts to go unfinished

Here's quite a nice thing to do. It seems to work best first thing in the morning or when you're totally relaxed - basically when the mind has enjoyed some moments of silence.

So, the mind is silent. There's an urge to think, the thoughts appear. They are the same old thoughts but there is an urge to find the "solution" to them, to resolve them. You think: once they are resolved then you'll be able to move on or deal with the thoughts promptly when they return a few minutes later. (Look closely and you may find the inherent pleasure of this type of activity). Anyway, let's not go that far. Do this instead:

- the thought arises
- you're relaxed, you are able to see it coming
- the thought is not that urgent (you've seen them all before)
- let the thought go unfinished
- drop back into the relaxed space
- tune in to the pleasure of what you have just done

Keep going until it's time to go back to bed - the world will be a better place.

A simple way to calm the mind

The mind is a complicated business so let's simplify it a little:

1) there is the thinking mind (your wordy thoughts, inner voice, etc)

2) and there is the mind of simple presence (the one that knows, if you like)

The first mind is that one that tends give us trouble because it seems so utterly believable even when it is being completely irrational - in fact, it is telling us a story. If it is telling us a horror story, then we start to get a bit out of whack...

But let's not go there. Instead, let us visit a zen story. It goes something like this:

Student: I cannot calm my mind

Master: Show me your mind and I will calm it

Student: I cannot find my mind

Master: There, it is already calm

Now, this is a highly useful method of calming an agitated mind. In order for it work, you need to be able to recognise the difference between mind 1 and mind 2 as explained above. If you've never been in mind 2, then you probably won't even believe it exists (indeed, many people don't…

Is success a good thing?

I ask this question because I was once successful and now I am not in the game anymore I still mix with successful people and I see what they are going through and there is a great struggle going on - they achieve a lot but they have to give so much of themselves away. I also see health time bombs waiting to go off, and it raises questions about how great a successful career is.

 Should we aspire for something better?