Give yourself a bit of nice

Once you accept that nothing really happens, that there are no winners and losers, that there is no intrinsic fairness in the universe, that you don't really exist in the way you think you do (the evidence for this is fairly overwhelming), then you might find yourself feeling a bit grim. You'll meet a lot of grim people in your life and you probably know a few right now, but you don't need to become one of them just because life is meaningless and you're just an organic spec transforming energy from one form to another through the mechanics of an evolutionary machine. This is to understand things incorrectly.

You have found yourself alive in a body. How you interpret that is up to you, but you've got a life and you're a human being (unless you are a dog that can read). A human being means something - you need people, you feel happy, you feel sad, you want to swim with dolphins, eat pleasant food, not be tortured and killed. This is what we are: and, it turns out, it's ******* hard. And, it's the same for everybody. So, even though you're not going to be a star in heaven, you still deserve a bit of nice and kindness and the sense that you matter within the context of the bubble we live in. Don't be grim, be kind to yourself. Open a door and be pleased to see yourself. Give yourself a break.

Now, realizing that we are all in this together and really knowing that this is true is a big deal.  So, don't get all cynical on me. See it and believe it.